Divorce?

[prydain]

A little personal so I don't expect many replies, and that's ok...just wondering if anyone has experienced it and what it was like.

I believe my parents are getting a divorce soon...it's a situation I thought I'd never find myself in. (Anita Blake's heard about it by now. :)) A lot of my friends have gone through it and they never seemed to upset by it, and I was always shocked that they didn't seem to care. Now, I know where they're coming from. It's not as traumatizing as I thought it would be. Yet, anyway. :)

I would also like to add...divorce it certainly a real b*tch, and I hope that when I get married I never have to do it. :D

[Angels baby101]

My dad and my mom got divorced when i was 3, then my dad remarried a woman named livie she ended up being a B*tch and abused me, then my mom remaired someone and he abused me so they both got divorced agian and my mom is married agian to a great guy and my dad is getting remarried to a great woman in febuary and she is having his twin girls in april

[prydain]

I'm really glad that they both finally found someone they're happy with. :)

[Angels baby101]

yeah i'm happy for them, divorce sucks it really does but sometimes its for the best

[prydain]

Yeah.

I'll post my story tomorrow, but it's long and complicated, lol. :)

[Allycat]

Luckily my parents have been happy with each other for over 30 years. At one point they had a huge fight and there were threats of divorce, but that was over seven years ago and it all worked out alright.

I know this one guy whose parents got divorced and he was severely traumatised by it. So, even though it works out fine for some people, I don't think you should underestimate the impact it can have.

[prydain]

Yeah, I was saying I personally thought I would be traumatized, but I wasn't.

[Angels baby101]

Yeah i mean i still have troublee with my mom and dad's divorce expecially when they fight and put me in the middle then theirs the having to choose who to live wiht right now i'm with my dad and have been for the past 2 years but for 15 years of my life i was with my mom, so this whole thing with my dad is still new, its hard to choose who to live with i love my mom but she treats me like a baby, here i have freedom although i miss my mom alot and am tired of my dad yelling at me (we're too alike we argue alot lol)

[prydain]

I'm definitely going with my mom. But more of that tomorrow. :)

[eponinethen]

having never been married I obviously haven't gone through a divorce.. However, my parents got divorced when I was four.. I took it pretty well at the time, but less well later on (long stories).. My mom remarried quite soon, and is still married to her "new" husband (he's a great guy, I love my step-dad (in a non-creepy way))..
All my grandparents have gotten divorced and remarried as well, hm.. That was before I was born though..

[prydain]

](he's a great guy, I love my step-dad (in a non-creepy way))..

lol! that's funny.

[teentitan]

I was divorced back in 89' but we did not have any kids. What I do know from experience is that during the process there is waves of emotion and the main one is hatred. I have seen this hatred make other people do crazy things and the number 1 crazy thing using their kids to get back at each other.
Some kids shriveled but the ones that I saw who stood their ground and told their parents I am not a tool to be used for hatred you have for each other actually got thru to them and were taken out of the situation. Though divorce is hard for a child to go thru the ones who tell their parents it's their fight come out a better more mature, responsible person. Oddly more mature then their parents. Hope this is the answer you were looking for?

[Mother]

My parents have been married for nearly 30 years and last Friday my mother packed up all my dad's stuff and told him she was done. He left with my car. Heh... I dunno how I feel about the whole thing...I guess I just feel like it was inevitable so I'm just trying to remain dead to the whole thing. Dad says he'll give me my car back this week. ^_^

Still...I'm finding it difficult to think of any of my friends' whose parents are still together. It's...depressing.

[Wesley]

my parents are divorced. and have been since i was like 5. Personally I like it, i don't really get along with my dad, so the divorce keeps me away from him.
Also everything I do wrong, I get to blame the divorce for, so its cool.

[eponinethen]

Also everything I do wrong, I get to blame the divorce for, so its cool.
Oh I never thought of it like that.. Gotta start doing that more often :p

[VisionGuy]

My parents almost got divorced when I was like 14 because they were having a lot of problems. I even had to move with my mom and sister to Puerto Rico. But then we moved back to Jersey, my parents got together and now they are as happy as ever.

[Anita Blake]

My parents got divorced when I was 9. I am really glad that it happened. I was happy about it as it was happening as well. My real dad was a horrible person. He beat my mom, and almost killed my little brother before he was born. He cheated on my mom all the time, and he didn't want anything to do with me or my 2 brothers. When they got a divorce, my brothers and I lived with my mom and he moved out. He actually after a couple of months moved too Canada to live with his girlfriend. When I was 10, I had to go live with him and my step-mom for a while, because he wanted to prove to the judge he was a good dad. Yeah right. I spent the entire time either alone with my step-mom's parents, or with my step-mom's ex-husband and their two girls. I liked her ex-husband. He was really nice and treated me like one of his daughters. When I was with my real dad and step-mom it was horrible. They treated me like dirt and when I called my mom to tell her I wanted to go home, they caught me and yelled at me, calling me names, and then my step-mom slapped me. Finally, I got her ex-husband to take me to the airport to get a ticket and went back home. I haven't seen my dad since.

But, when I got back from Canada, my mom had met a new guy (my step-dad) online, and they moved in together and got married. That was 9 years ago. They are still married, and I'm very happy with my new family.