Age? Race? Religion!?

[Angels baby101]

Ok lol another touchy subject lol

Would you choose not to date someone just cause of their age, race, or religion?

I personally think 1. AGE IS NOTHING BUT A NUMBER i mean really just cause somone decided 1 was 1 and not 6365034 doesnt mean anything really its how well the person is matured. I mean for instance i know some 30 year olds who act 3 and some 17 year olds who act 25 (myself included half the time)

2.Race. ITS NOT THE 50's anymore, I think if the person loves you and treats you right and you love them theirs nothing wrong with it, but other people feel different

and last religion... ok this is touchier, but i really dont care what religion he is because agian if you love each other then it should be ok.

[prydain]

Religion...The only religion I wouldn't associate with would be Satanism or any religion that revels in twisted evil stuff...just because they oppose those who stand for good. lol.

But I have friends of all religions and it's cool. Marriage? I don't know, because it would be hard to marry someone who didn't share your beliefs. But I've dated outside my religion.

Race? I'm friends of all races but I'm not sexually attracted to all races.

Age? If they're mature enough, then sure. Unless you're 40 and they're 12...:)

I'm 17 but I have many many friends who are older, and two are over thirty. So age is not a real factor for me.

[Angels baby101]

lol well ya if your 12 and with a 40 year old thats kinda nasty but i'm 17 and i've dating guys up to 25. i just i cant be with anyone who doesnt stimulate my mind. Make me think

[Allycat]

1) AGE: Well, as you pointed out the numbers aren't really what matters, but a difference in age usually is paired with a difference in mental development and/or being in a different stage of your life. If either of the two are true, I would consider not dating someone or at least, I would think very carefully about it. I actually have some experience with this one. There's this girl, I've known since she was 12 and I was 16 and we've always liked each other and like when she was 14, I think, she asked to date me, but I said no because of the age difference. She's one of the few people from my secondary school with whom I've kept contact. I still have a sort of crush on her. (She's turning 17 in a few days and I'll be 21 in a month's time.) I'll give it another year, I think, if we still like each other then, I'll pursue it.
2) RACE: It's definitely not an issue in the sense that I wouldn't not date someone because of what race they are. Fact is however that I'm usually more attracted by people of one race than of the other, which doesnt mean they're any less, of course. Furthermore, I don't really meet many people of different races.
3) RELIGION: This one is somewhat important. Unlike race and age, religion is a reflection of personality. I wouldn't mind dating somewhat with a different religion as long as their morals don't completely clash with mine.

[prydain]

Well said, Allycat. :)

[Angels baby101]

Oooooooooo YAY ally i'm happy for you bout the pursuing thing! Its about time lol AHhh i'm so like happy about that. *HUGS!* lmao oh thats sad though then you wont be my innocent lil ally... and i'll never get my chance to have my way with you that makes me sad...

[Gollanth]

The age thing is no bother to me as my OH is actually 17 years younger than me anyway. I also know a couple where one partner is 30 and the other 59. They've been together for 11 years, so relationships where there's a big age difference CAN work.

I'm not remotely religious - in fact, I'm a confirmed atheist - so I'd find it very difficult to be with someone who had strong religious beliefs. I'm not saying if the attracton on other grounds was strong enough that it absolutely wouldn't work, but I think it woud be very difficult when we each had such diametrically opposed views.

As to race, I think it'd depend on the circumstances. I have many friends of differing races and I have no personal opposition to mixed-race relationships, but I'm generally not particularly sexually attracted to many other races. (Having said that, I do find many Polynesians very attractive, but you don't find many of them in London! lol)

[Allycat]

Golliath raises an intersting point about interracial relationships... I have no problem with them either.

[eponinethen]

Well, I was gonna say pretty much exactly what Allycat said. But yeah, you said it so well, I won't repeat stuff ;)

[Velvet Sky]

1. AGE: I agree it's not everything, and I'd probably make exceptions to any 'age rule'. But right now, I'm 26, and I think I'd have trouble seriously dating anyone who was more than 10 or 12 years older than me, just because I think we'd be in such different stages of life. Especially since I still live like your average 18 year old. However, that said, I don't know that I could date an 18 year old either. My brother is 5 years younger than me, and I might manage to be okay with a year younger than that... but less than that and it starts to seem 'creepy' to me. But like I said, I'm sure there could be exceptions to that rule if the person seemed a good fit or something. Now regarding any non romantic relationships... I have no age limits on that... I've got a friend who's in her 50s and is like my father's age... and had friends at school last year who were still in junior high and grade school when I was already in college.

2 RACE: No, this doesn't matter to me. I actually spent most of April, May, and June pursuing a guy who was Asian. Unfortunatly nothing much came of it, but anyway... that's another story. *L*

3. RELIGION: This is a complicated one, it would probably depend on the specific person, their particular beliefs, how they viewed other beliefs, how they talked of, or how much about their beliefs.

[Summers Blood]

Well I thought I'd put my opinion forward, don't know why I haven't before.

1. AGE: Well to be honest I have the worst track record where age is concerned. I have dated loads of people younger than me and at first it never bothered me until the guys showed their imature side. At the moment I'm looking for a guy who is older than me because of my mistakes in the past. I'm not saying that I wouldn't ever date anyone younger again but I think because girls mature faster (again not always the case but in my experience it has been) I think I need to be with someone who is older. I may be only 25 but I have a lot of things other girls my age don't like a house and a cat and a full time career that takes up a lot of my time. In the past the younger guys I dated didn't have the same things as me they lived with their parents and I know for a fact my ex really resented what I had.

2. Race. Now race doesn't bother me but I have never been in a situation where I have met someone who is a different race to me and the town I live in isn't multi-cultural so there isn't much chance of me meeting anyone while I live where I do.

3. Religion. Well coming from a family where my dad is a devoute Atheist and my mum is a practising Christian, I don't think it really matters. It's never really been a problem for my parents so I can't see it been a problem if I ever meet anyone. As long as most of our life values are the same I would never not date someone because they are not religious. I just don't think it matters. My mum and dad actually tease each other about their beliefs or lack of them. My dad keeps insisting that when he dies he is going to have This is the road to Hell played at his funeral, much to my mothers disgust.

[Kiddo]

Well, first:

Age: I'm 21 and my boyfriend is 29, so that kind of says it all :ponder: I don't think age has anything to do with attraction... Age can make a relationship harder, but I don't think you can put up any rules for love. But well... it surely as many of you have said depends on how mature you and your boyfriend/girlfriend are... or how immature :smile: I have felt attracted to both older and younger guys, but younger guys don't work for me at the moment (I don't know if this would change... I doubt). I don't feel secure around them... but I don't know... Maybe I have not meet the right ones...

Race: Again... has nothing to do with attraction and love... but I have never really been attracted to any other races than my own... but I would not shut out the possibility (other than I quite happy at the moment with my bf :rolleyes2 )

Religion: Yeah, this is a tough one... I'm not at all religious myself, so I'm pretty open-minded. But I don't think I could date someone who has to strong reliefs... I would be too complicated for me, because I don't like rules :ponder:

[Akasha]

race & religion: absolutley no problem with blending them in a marriage...the more diverse, the merrier....er, something like that ;)

age: this i kind of have a different opinion on...most people said they were cool with age differences and for the most i agree...however, i think its completely improper (and gross) for someone to pursue someone under the age of 18 when there is a gap in their age...and by "gap" i mean 7+ years...anything other than that is ok i guess

[MentPatient]

Age isn't that much of a factor, unless it's really young (since I'm relatively yougn at the moment). Same for race and religion, but if she goes spouting religion, well.. that's kind of a no-go for me.

[prydain]

race & religion: absolutley no problem with blending them in a marriage...the more diverse, the merrier....er, something like that ;)


I actually can't agree with that, because I know a lot of couples who are very diverse in like 20 ways or more, as in extremes, not just differences in personality, and even though they all love each other at times they just sort of completely clash. I'm sure there are people who are completely different that don't have that many problems, but I think the more different you are (ideas about things, how you were raised, cultural ideas, etc) the harder a life together would be.